I’m really intrigued to find out if you followed a baby sleep book routine or just went with instinct based on what your baby/babies were “telling” you!?
At the beginning as a first time mum, I wasn’t even aware of such books. As time passed and I was being judged by putting my babies to bed at 5.30-6pm (this was around the time the babies would be more than ready for bed) I was being asked “why don’t you try later which means you’ll get up later and sleep?” I thought maybe I was doing it wrong, these kind of comments to a first time mum suffering with PND made me question my mothers instinct.
I purchased a book with all good intentions to make this work and tried the 7pm routine for around 3 months. Unfortunately it just WASN’T working at all. We had awful nights where I would be up and down sorting both babies out around 3/4 times each. They wouldn’t sleep through like they previously were which made it all the more frustrating. Napping was unbearable and was exhausting. I tried to give it a chance but decided enough was enough and went back to our normal baby led routine. Suddenly, boom – back to sleeping through the night.
I don’t mind getting up at 5-6am as I pack myself off to bed early so I get some sleep. Most of my working life I was getting up fairly early and working till late. So for the sake of an extra hour in bed for someone that LOVES there sleep, this routine for me/us wasn’t worth it! Maybe I didn’t give it long enough but 3 months of yet another period of sleep deprivation was taking it’s toll.
Going back to instinct and back to what the babies wanted, worked almost immediately. I gave up trying to sync their routines. Some days they nap the same time time some days they don’t. Bedtime is a different story they generally go off to sleep at the same time give or take 10 minutes.
What I’d love to know is did you use a sleep book!? If so which one and how successful was it!? Or were you baby led and did what your baby wanted!? How did this work for you and was it successful!?
For now I’m really happy with their sleeping, it’s never going to be perfect. I’m just really keen to get feedback from other parents on their views!